Updated: Nov 14
Whether we’re talking about improving performance at work or raising children, resilience is a hot topic that everyone wants to learn more about—and for good reason. Resilience is the ability to adapt and overcome in the face of adversity, stress, and trauma, and it’s a skill that has an immense impact on us and those around us.
In honor of Foster Care Awareness Month, we’re going to explore how we can support resilience in one of the most vulnerable populations in the US: foster kids.
Foster Care and Resilience
In the United States, over 400,000 children find themselves navigating a uniquely challenging path—one marked by the complexities and trauma of the foster care system.
For all young people, formative experiences significantly shape development, and foster children are no exception. Foster care shapes and influences various aspects of the children’s lives it plays a part in, and if you’ve ever spoken to a former foster kid about their experiences, it’s likely you already know the ways in which foster care negatively impacts children.
By exploring the topic of foster care and child development through a trauma-informed lens, we will recognize the profound impact that early experiences can have on children’s growth and well-being and discover how to nurture resilience in this vulnerable population.
The Impact of Trauma on Children in Foster Care
Foster care is an inherently traumatic experience for young children. Separating a child from their home is never an ideal situation, and in cases where separation is considered to be in the best interest of the child, their home life was likely traumatic as well.
Early trauma impacts child development, and foster care children often struggle with:
Memory and focus. Trauma can affect cognitive development, which later presents personal challenges in school or work.
Language development. Young children with limited exposure to consistent language models, books, or social situations often struggle to read and learn language compared to their peers.
Attachment and trust. Foster kids often have insecure attachments in their relationships, which can later affect their ability to make and keep friends.
Social skills. When children grow up without secure attachments, they often struggle in social situations. Social-emotional skills develop after basic needs are met.
Self-esteem. Foster children often feel as if they don’t belong, which can greatly impact their self-esteem and mental health.
Academic performance. Foster care often disrupts children’s education directly through moving, and the trauma of foster care can further impact a child’s performance.
Physical health. Many foster kids don’t receive adequate access to healthcare, such as regular check-ups, necessary treatments, and medications.
In many settings, when people meet foster children, they are quick to dismiss them and define them by these negative qualities. Rather than see these children as “bad” because of their grades, health, or abilities, we must actively use a trauma-informed lens that sees them as suffering and resilient.
A Stable Foundation for Foster Kids
Foster care children often face frequent placement changes that disrupt their sense of stability and security. Many children also have little to no belongings, which means the comfort of familiarity is often absent. This lack of consistency and stability deeply affects foster children, which is why actively working to combat instability in their lives can make a significant impact.
By providing consistent caregivers and nurturing environments, we can help rebuild trust and foster a sense of belonging. Stable foundations empower foster care children to navigate the world with greater confidence and resilience.
Fostering Cognitive Development
Trauma impacts cognitive development in children, which presents unique issues. When kids struggle with memory, focus, or their grades, it is often due to the instability and trauma they experience.
However, these challenges are not insurmountable. By implementing structure and routines, offering academic assistance, and tailoring learning plans to their individual needs, we can support foster care children in their cognitive growth. Foster children are capable of extreme resilience when they have adequate support.
Nurturing Emotional Well-being
The emotional impact of trauma on foster care children cannot be understated. Abuse, neglect, grief, and loss have a profound impact on us all, especially when we are children. And foster children experience these at much higher rates.
To support children’s emotional well-being, we must provide trauma-informed interventions that promote emotional regulation, self-esteem, and healthy emotional expression. In order to empower those in the foster care system to develop resilience and cultivate positive self-images, we can focus on teaching children and adults in the system to heal from their past wounds through trauma-informed care.
Building Healthy Relationships
Disrupted attachments can pose challenges for foster care children in forming relationships. This makes it hard for kids to make and keep friends, and later in life, they may struggle to maintain healthy relationships.
It is crucial to remember that these people are not inherently "bad" or unlovable. They are struggling and in need of support.
By establishing consistent and caring relationships, we can support the development of secure attachments and facilitate healthy connections. A positive stable adult relationship can have an immense impact on the resilience of a child, even if that relationship is infrequent. A single conversation can have a greater effect than you realize.
By actively seeking out social interactions and community engagement with foster kids, you can enhance their social development and sense of belonging.
Addressing Physical Health and Well-being
Foster care children face health disparities and challenges. The concept of the social determinants of health is not new. Access to healthcare, regular medical check-ups, and mental health support are critical for a person’s overall well-being, but many factors, socially and structurally, often prevent these supports.
Foster parents play a vital role in advocating for their physical health needs, ensuring they receive the necessary care and support. By addressing their physical health, we contribute to their holistic development and resilience.
We can also empower foster kids to learn more about their own health. Education is power, and teaching kids early on about exercise, nutrition, and healthcare empowers them to make informed decisions.
Conclusion: Foster Care Impacts Child Development, But Foster Kids Are Not Broken
Foster care children are not inherently broken or bad. They have endured suffering and trauma in the system.
By embracing a trauma-informed approach, we can nurture their growth and resilience. It is our collective responsibility to create a supportive and compassionate environment that uplifts and empowers the children in our communities who need us the most. Every foster care child deserves the opportunity to thrive and write their own narrative. All they need is our support.