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December 2022 Trauma-Informed Newsletter

Updated: Jan 10

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Monthly Reflections

For many, December is a month full of festive holiday activities and gratitude. It can also be a month that triggers us into our trauma responses.

As we walk along our healing journey, we often see others who have not chosen healing. This experience can be deeply frustrating, especially when we care for those people. And, during the holidays, feelings of loneliness may increase.

When we look back at this month, let's do our best to accept reality for what it is and celebrate all we've done to heal. Radical acceptance and empowerment are two key concepts that will help us move forward into the new year with healing.

Looking Ahead

The beginning of the New Year is a motivational time for many, but we often create rigid ideas of success that can be nearly unachievable.

This year, you can set yourself up for lasting success by creating sustainable trauma-informed goals that focus on healing your trauma. We often see self-care as a treat, but it's necessary for overcoming trauma.

13 Trauma-Informed Goals for the New Year

Here's some trauma-informed inspiration for your New Year goals! Remember, when goal-setting, it's best to focus on one thing at a time. Once you achieve your first goal, then focus on a second single goal. If you could pick just one of these goals, which one would it be?

  1. Practice active listening.

  2. Create a self-care plan.

  3. Practice breaking reenactments.

  4. Create a healing inner voice to counteract a harmful or critical inner voice.

  5. Prioritize self-care.

  6. Set, communicate, and reinforce boundaries.

  7. Try trauma-informed coaching or therapy.

  8. Identify your trauma responses.

  9. Let go of guilt and shame.

  10. Lean into radical acceptance.

  11. Empower yourself and others.

  12. Ask for help when you need it.

  13. Be your own trauma-informed coach by asking yourself powerful questions.

Removing Obstacles to Self Care is Self Care

When committing to self-care is too challenging, preparing for self-care can serve as a soft-launch.

Trauma keeps us stuck. Sometimes, when we're triggered, we can become paralyzed. In our frozen state, we might think about what we want or need to do. We might even obsess over it.

But instead of doing the things we know will help us, we procrastinate, frozen in trauma brain.

If this ever happens to you, this tip can help you escape your fight or flight mode and step back into your true self.

Instead of thinking about the big task you need to do, shift your mindset by thinking about what you can do to prepare for that task.

By only committing to preparing for the task at hand, the new task (preparing) feels much easier, faster, and more manageable. Once it's done, we've removed obstacles to our self-care, which is self-care. By breaking down self-care in this way, it can be more manageable to step out of trauma brain and back into executive functioning.

Loss is Inevitable When Healing

Healing from trauma is a process that is never truly "complete." As you move through your journey, you'll realize that there are things we leave behind as we move forward.

As we heal, we must let go of things that were once important to us. These might be old habits and coping strategies that no longer serve us, relationships that we can now see as damaging to us, or a past version of ourselves that we can no longer cling to.

In the SELF-model, loss is an important experience to acknowledge and work through. SELF stands for Safety, Emotions, Loss, and Future.

When we experience loss, we must confront difficult emotions like grief and disappointment. For many people, healthy distraction strategies can snowball into fully-fledged avoidance, where the problem is never truly addressed.

The issue with avoiding how we feel about our loss is that those feelings of grief and disappointment don't go away. They fester, grow, and may even transform into resentment, bitterness, irritation, anger, or sadness.

So, as you continue on your healing journey, be aware that loss is a part of that journey, and when the time comes, it's important to sit with the feelings you experience, whatever they are.